I got an email today from yoga goddess Lisa Smiley, and it couldn’t have been more perfect for where I am right now. She talks about resistance and how it plays out in our lives, both good and bad. You can read it below, but the most interesting thing she pointed out was how we are equally apt to resist positive change in our lives, as we are negative change. We tend to resist anything that changes the balance of our lives, even if it is something amazing like opening our heart or mind to someone or something.
What to do? “Begin at the beginning. Find your breath and find your mat.” I was wondering whether or not to go to class today after a day ridden with miscommunication, a busy day schedule at the spa and a tight social schedule for tonight…but I’ll take some wise words and “find my mat.” word.
Lisa’s email:
“How many of us like the way Yoga makes us feel? How many of us really practice regularly? Maybe you have your mat at home in a clean quiet place, perfect for practicing, but you just can’t seem to make yourself get on that mat at home. Or maybe you schedule those specific classes at the studio into your week but then when its time to go you find yourself sitting on the couch in front of the tv or at your desk in front of your computer.
Do you notice yourself experiencing resistance in other areas of your life as well? Are you all prepared to begin a new project, but you just can’t seem to start it? Are you ready to take a relationship to the next level but you think that might make you feel trapped? Are you holding a grudge against someone or something that no longer deserves it?
Take a moment and experience that feeling of resistance. It feels kind of like irritability, like a kid saying “you can’t make me”.
This is one of life’s most puzzling paradoxes. The way we resist not only life’s difficulties but also life’s potential sweetness. We sometimes notice it as a subtle tendency to hold back from anything that changes the balance in our lives.
We don’t just resist unpleasant things like working with a health issue, or recognizing the need to leave a job. We often have a strange resistance to maybe getting a massage, or opening fully to a friend or lover, or, opening our hearts and minds to inner growth – even when we sense that we’re cutting ourselves off from something great.
Sometimes resistance is appropriate. If you didn’t have the ability to say no, to resist, or to filter, you would be overwhelmed. This is like the body’s immune system. It helps resist invaders, bugs, bacteria, and bring natural balance back. Our psychological immune system is similar. We learn as we grow up to set boundaries, and provide gateways, but sometimes we also create hostilities, and exploitations.
How can we find the balance? Now that we’ve looked into ourselves there may be an overwhelming feeling of RESISTANCE!! Slow down. Take a breath. Begin at the beginning. Find your breath and find your mat. Practice. Be mindful and kind with yourself. When you feel/see a Resistance rearing up, address it and decide if it is necessary. Take time to think about it. Maybe make a plan to deal with it. There are many experiences awaiting you in your life. Remember how good it feels to do Yoga? You can experience that same feeling off the mat when you decide to accept life, enjoy it and resist it less.”
I’m working on resisting less and will make that my focus for my home practice tonight
Namaste mother F#@*+!s